Scrolling Facebook I saw a post by an acquaintance complaining about a kid throwing a tantrum in the grocery store, and they had typed “My kids never threw a fit in public”.
No, for real. She typed that lie down on the internet. Forever there will be a record of this ridiculous lie. I don’t need to see that negativity in my life so I unfollowed her lightning fast (unfriending can cause drama, unfollow is the way to go).
Maybe you think she isn’t lying and she is just a better parent than the rest of us. I know this is a lie because if that were true they all would have starved to death long ago.
Grocery stores do something to kids. It might be the florescent lighting, or maybe all the vegetables they don’t like so close to them, whatever it is all kids have had a meltdown in a grocery store. Sure, you can just leave and take your screaming kid so they don’t disturb others, but then you’re going to a restaurant. We all know that people are a lot less tolerant of screaming kids in restaurants, and parents deserve more than drive through fast food for every meal.
There are only two options. One your child will have a tantrum in public. Two your child never has a tantrum in public, but you all starve to death before age three.
Lying to the world about how perfect your kids are is just annoying, but publicly judging a parent for a normal childhood behavior not only makes you a crappy person, it can really hurt a parent who is struggling. I have gotten in my car and sat in tears after horrible public tantrums, and I know I’m not alone.
I propose we start showing some love to the parents with screaming kids in the grocery store. And not the thing where you go up and try to interact with the screaming kid. That doesn’t always help, and nothing makes my toddler freak out more than a stranger in her space.
Next time you see a frazzled parent with their screaming kid behind you in the check-out line buy them a chocolate bar. Tell them you know kids are jerks sometimes. That way even if they still need to sit in the car and cry for a few minutes they have a snack and a spot of kindness to focus on.
For the record, I prefer Kit-Kats.